There is No Such Thing as Shyness?

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by: GabrielAngelo
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Date: Fri, 4 Mar 2011 Time: 10:26 AM
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There is something that is supposedly affect a large amount of people that is none other than "shyness".

In my opinion, there is really no such thing as shyness. Shyness is just an explanation to why you are and excuse to prevent you from socializing with others, because you were not socially skilled, and thus you gave yourself the labe that you were shy.

For guys who are shy, I believe that as when they were like most little kids, they were naturally carefree, playful, curious about life, without restraint (except by the parents), and just about everything else the opposite of shyness.

But some how down the road, something happened that caused them to become more reserved, either result of family, other kids picking on them, or whatever it was that propelled it. That diminished their interest to be social, and for this reason they never learned proper social skills when growing up.

Every time they allowed themselves with folks, they weren't enjoying it compared other people because they were not as skilled socially, and eventually have social anxiety and so avoided human contacts as much as possible but told themselves they were just shy as a mean to justify it.

Look not everybody were fortunate enough to be raised in a positive supportive environment where it was common to interact with others, either it may have been our influence from our friends, immediate atmosphere, parents restricting us or over-pambering us, etc.

But whatever the reason may be, when you have the right skill sets and your social toolbox filled with social mojo like your stories and your witty one-liner repertoires (I called this your sociability), you will naturally be oblivious to any social anxiety in your social gathering.

The reason why you experience social anxiety is a result of you haven't socialized enough pior and not used to it, it is unfamiliar; therefore, don't have the right skill sets built up from experience to cope with it.

Once your brain is given the tools and you have plenty of social arsenals under your belt, you will no longer have that social anxiety because you know how to perform socially.

About the Author

Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.

For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.